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Unwritten rules - I should, I must, I need......

Unwritten rules - I should, I must, I need......

by Bill Sheate

Three little words…..

How often does our self-talk start with words like should, must or need?

  • I should be able to complete this.

  • I must do this perfectly (or else I'm useless, may be the unspoken underlying core belief).

  • I need to do all these tasks today.

These three simple words so often reflect unspoken (and unconscious) rules to live by that we have established over time, in response to our experiences and as coping strategies for dealing with difficult or stressful situations…….